How to Help a New Mom

As a new mother, all I wanted was privacy. I wanted no one or nothing to come anywhere near me. Sure they could bring food, help around the house, but I didn’t want them to come into my bedroom, invade my personal space and feel like I had to let them hold my baby! If I could have had it my way, I wouldn’t have told anyone that I was in labor but my husband and midwife. I wouldn’t want anyone to see me or the baby for the first week (like literally no one! my husband, midwife and any other children are the only exceptions because…. ya, know… they live there, and well, it’s just smart to have your health care provider visits!)

That’s me, that’s how I work and what I would want. I know plenty of other people who want a lot of people around them right after their baby is born, even while their in labor (my brain can’t even explain this rationally to me! But hey, if it works for you, that’s great!)

Here’s another bloggers post on tips to help an new mother. It’s a Great list! So Much Truth in it!

If I had anything to add to this list it would be:
1. Always be respectful of the mothers wishes and don’t take them personally.
2. If she asks for something, Anything, even if it seems weird or maybe even rude, be respectful of what she just did!
3. Ask if there’s any dietary restrictions or preferences she may need in any meal preparations.
4. Give her grace! She’s extremely hormonal! She may be in shock if her experience wasn’t as planned. She’s learning new skills, if she asks for privacy or space, give it!
5. If you’re not sure what she may need, ask! You can always just ask anyway and see if there’s anything else she might need.

If you know someone who is about to be a new or first time mother, this should be a great recourse for you if you are not sure how to be of help!

What would you add to this list? Would you do anything differently?

2 thoughts on “How to Help a New Mom”

  1. I cannot agree with you more on the solidarity. I have plenty of moms who like the support but it was overwhelming with the amounts of people – I was stressing during delivery because I knew there was an arsenal of people waiting. Once we got home, whew! I’m glad i could hide in my room away from people.

    Thank you so much for sharing my post!

    1. you’re welcome!

      I honestly think you’re pretty brave to have your baby in a hospital. That was one of the main reasons I chose to have mine at home. I didn’t want tons of people coming in and out of my room, people I didn’t know and would never see again! I had people calling me while I was in labor asking where I was so they could come hang out and I was so shocked I turned my phone off and didn’t touch it for some time! For me, it was when I actually got home that everyone showed up even less that 5 hours after baby was born! my second one no one saw me for three day after! It was great!

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