11 ​Natural Labor Tips

“You’re pregnant! Yay, and you want to have it naturally? Home birth or hospital?”
The questions are never more invasive, nonstop, and annoying than when you’re pregnant (perhaps getting married is second).

I wanted to hide from the WORLD towards the end of my last trimester, even more so when I would tell people I was having my baby naturally… at home.

And for some reason, everyone feels the need to tell you their horror stories about their births! WHY would you DO That? Having a baby is scary enough. Having a baby naturally can be terrifying! All the thoughts run through your head; What if that happens to me?  How do I cope with transition? What do I do if its too much? How do I lower the pain level? What if I change my mind? In the Middle of LABOR??

So why would anyone choose to do this? Well, here are my reasons:
I decided to have a natural labor because I wanted to not be in a hospital and the only other option in my area was at home, there were no birthing centers near me at the time.  My biggest concern was for privacy, I didn’t want to hear anyone else, I didn’t want people walking in I didn’t know and trying to talk to me, checking on me, messing with me. I wanted to be alone with my husband and my midwife. My other reason was the paranoia that if they took my baby out of my room, for whatever reason, what if I got the wrong one back?! (realistic, maybe not. But you can’t count those fears out in such a situation, they play a role and can make the experience more stressful.) I also thought I could handle the pain. So my husband and I agreed and went for it (it was also a lot cheaper and would be completely paid for before baby was even born which was a big plus you don’t get with hospitals). I did have my hospital birth plan written out in case of transfer, everything was ready and prepped in case the need should arise. But, my first birth went well and there were no complications and no minor issues for baby or myself. We left the house with our baby later that same night (my midwife had a friend who would let people have babies at her house if they didnt want to have it at their own, so home birth, just not at my own home!). Was it easy? No! It’s pushing another human out of your body! BUT It Is DOABLE! Women have been doing it for Centuries without pain meds or hospitals. For me, these reasons were more important than being in pain for a few hours. And even though I left scarred, I did it again for the second one because those desires outweighed the pain, and I’m so glad I did it again because not only did I have a better experience, I even recommend it!

Now there needs to be something said about having a baby naturally in a hospital as well. This can very much so be done with the right communication and team, some people just feel safer having babies in a hospital and there is nothing wrong with that.
There is nothing wrong with whatever way you actually have your baby. The important thing is that you and your baby are ok.
What you should do is discuss with your partner what you are both comfortable with and make your plans from there.

So what are my tips for having a baby naturally?
When having a baby naturally at home:

  1. Take a birthing class so you and your partner are familiar with what may happen. If you can’t take one, you can find some useful things on youtube. You might even want to do both.
  2. Don’t assume everything will go a certain way based off of your mom’s births.
  3. Learn how to breathe and take it slow. Labor is a marathon, not a sprint. Don’t try and make the baby come faster and wear yourself out.
  4. Talk through the birth and what role you want your partner to play before it starts.
  5. Learn to BREATHE! and RELAX in between contractions.
  6. Realize that it may not go according to plan and be prepared mentally and physically for things changing.
  7. Do not get dehydrated. Assign someone to water you. Seriously, you can forget.
  8. Eat Comfort Food! You’ve gotta eat something so you might as well enjoy it!
  9. Have something to look forward to right after! I wanted gluten! (I can’t eat gluten while pregnant so my first thing was bread! In the form of a hamburger! It was So Good! Also note, some hospitals do not allow you to eat during labor so be sure to ask what their policy is.)
  10. Understand how you think and respond to pain.
  11. It Will End. At one point the pain will stop.

These are just some tips and things to think about. Be sure to visit this blog by Liesel, a labor and delivery nurse to find out more useful tips and information. There are a lot of good lists of things to pack and what to expect.

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Baby Shower Gift Guide

BABIES!!! The excitement, the anticipation. All the tiny things, tiny shoes, tiny socks, tiny hats and tiny nose! Is there anything quite like the excitement of a tiny baby soon to be coming, especially when it’s not yours?

And now, the ultimate question: “What gift should I bring to the shower?!”

For those of you to yet have a baby or this is a first-time mom, it can be a daunting list of gifts and items to go through and weed out what would be the right gift, a useful gift, something that’s actually helpful and needed. With all the new cool gadgets out there that one simply must have in order to be a “good parent”, how does one not go broke? How do you not spend a fortune on a baby shower gift that ends up not being used or really liked by the baby?

Well, here is my list of the most useful, most bang for your buck, most versatile gifts that are good for first-time moms or even second-time moms that are great ideas for a baby shower gift.
Let me know what you would want or think should be added to the list in the comments below! I love hearing your thoughts!

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These are in no particular order:

Humidifiersare great gifts. When your baby has a stuffed nose and can’t sleep, nobody’s sleeping well that night! Humidifiers help keep the baby’s nose moist and keep everything from drying out and making it harder to breathe. These can be so helpful but often seem to be forgotten at a shower. Today you can find ones that have multiple functions such as a nightlight, noise maker. I personally love one item that has several functions; not only do they save space and money ( in some cases) but when you need to childproof and you don’t have a lot of high counter space, only needing to move one thing is so helpful!

URPOWER 2nd Version Essential Oil Diffuser Aroma Essential Oil Cool Mist Humidifier with Adjustable Mist Mode,Waterless Auto Shut-off and 7 Color LED Lights Changing for Home Office Baby

Carriers are catching on more and more, but still need some reminder of the significance and importance they can play in those first few months. Both of my little ones wanted to be held most of the time (some may say you’re spoiling your baby, but I say you’re spoiling yourself!) The kind of carrier depends on the desire of the mama and baby, so my personal recommendation is a ring sling because you can carry in Any position in those. You can do front, back, hip, in or out. Any position you or baby may want.

4 in 1 Baby Wrap Carrier and Ring Sling by Kids N’ Such | Charcoal Gray Cotton | Use as a Postpartum Belt and Nursing Cover with Free Carrying Pouch | Best Baby Shower Gift for Boys or Girls

Swaddles are an excellent choice not only for babies that love to be a burrito but also because they can have many functions. they can be a swaddle, a nursing cover, a thin blanket when there’s still a light chill, car seat cover, bedtime blanket when baby gets bigger, they can even be worn by mama in some cases.

aden + anais Silky Soft Swaddle Baby Blanket, Viscose Bamboo Muslin, Large 47 X 47 inch, 3 Pack, Indigo, Blue

Monitors are not really a forgotten gift in today’s society, safety, and constant supervision can be the number 1 item of concern for a new parent. I never had one because my babies slept in the same room as myself for… a long time due to circumstances. If I did need one though, my husband and I would use our phone by calling each other, muting the one we kept with us and having both set on speaker. it worked great!

Owlet Smart Sock 2 Baby Monitor – Track Your Infant’s Heart Rate & Oxygen Levels. Or a WiFi Camera, LeFun Wireless Surveillance Camera IP Camera Nanny Cam with Pan Tilt Zoom Motion Detect Two Way Audio Night Vision Remote Control 2.4G WiFi for Baby Monitor

Diaper Pale with a lid. Need I say more?!

Playtex Diaper Genie Complete Assembled Diaper Pail with Odor Lock Technology & 1 Full Size Refill, White (1 Pail and 1 Refill per Unit)

Pack & Play are great for lots of different reasons. You don’t have to worry about bumper pads on the crib! They go where you go and it’s one less unfamiliar thing for a baby in a new environment.

Baby Trend Nursery Center, Tanzania

Backseat mirrors are a wonderful invention. Before having one, I never knew how long my baby slept in the car which would always throw me off. I felt So much better when I could see my little ones face!

Baby Car Mirror for Back Seat | View Rear Facing Infant in Backseat | Securely Fasten With Double Strap | Pivot Joint to Easily Adjust to Desired Viewing Angle …

First Aid Kits are a great gift. Having a smaller one that is already packed and can be kept in the diaper bag was my favorite. One less thing to think about and make sure we had as we were walking out the door.

Small Travel First Aid Kit - Mom’s Compact Emergency Essentials for Home, Car, Backpack, Hiking, Purse, Diaper Bag, Sports & Baby Shower Gift, Latex-Free Supplies (Kid Joy)

Gift Cards are on my list of recommended gifts because ther ewill always be something on the registry that wans’t purchased that the parents really want or something after the bhaby is born they realize would wokr great for their new family, so gift cars can be a great gift, espicially if they have a big wish list item. if several people gave gift cards, then they could put it towards that bigger wish!

Something for Mom. All this preparation and focus on mom can leave mom feeling like the star of the show, but not very thought of.scinted candles to make her feel like shes been pampered at the spa when she has a moment to herself, her favorite coffee, favorite resterant for a night out with the girls.